Remember this song?
I feel like I’ve been locked up tight
For a century of lonely nights
Waiting for someone
To release me…
It’s catchy, right? But if you want to have a more awesome life (and who doesn’t), you might not want to make this your new anthem.
Because nobody is going to rescue you (but you):
If you’re a genie trapped in your bottle, ain’t nobody out there coming to rescue you. Not a parent, your spouse/partner, your child, a good friend, a spiritual guide, your yoga instructor, guru, therapist, life coach…you get the point. These people can be awesome guides, and hold space for you to work through things, but it’s still up to you to change your life. No one can be with you all day, every day, except for you.
Want to earn more money? That’s not up to your boss or your clients – it’s up to you to show up differently at your job, to own your role and your position, to take on more, or to expand in different ways. Want to have a more loving relationship with a partner? That’s also up to you (not the other person) – start acting in the ways that you want to be treated, start showing appreciation for all that they already do around the house. Want a new relationship with someone who is loving and caring? Start showing love and care to yourself, and that other person will show up.
You’ve heard all this before, right?
You know that you are the captain of your own ship already, right? But what’s keeping you from those changes? What beliefs are buried so deeply within you that keeping you from the awesomest life ever?
Take a moment, right now, to close your eyes and imagine your most amazing new life, the one in which you have all that you desire, both physically and mentally. Can you see yourself there? And if not, why not?
Usually the things that hold us back fall into these types of thinking:
- I’m not accomplished enough/have enough degrees/education/experience in that new field or area in order to succeed in it.
- People don’t really like me.
- I’m not good enough at what I do. I’m incompetent. I’m not as smart as the other people.
- I’m not good at making friends or finding a loving relationship. I’m not as loveable as other people are.
- I don’t have time for those other things.
- You have to work really hard to get ahead at everything. It’s very hard to make money. It’s hard to be successful.
Here’s the thing, though. Everyone struggles with these thoughts. Successful and happy people haven’t figured out some magical trick that allows them to go through life blissfully happy all of the time, free from the problems that plague the rest of us.
Successful and happy people work at being successful and happy. And we can choose, in each day and each moment, to break out of the bottle. In quiet moments, we look at each belief that we have and decide to form a new belief instead. And then, each time those old beliefs rear their ugly heads, we insert the new one.
Like these:
- I am good at making friends.
- All things start with the first step.
- Going into a new field may take time, but I have the same abilities as everyone else in this field.
- Money comes freely and easily.
- I am loveable.
- I am enough.
Which beliefs do you want to change?
Whatever they are, the time is now. Go out there and become your own damn genie.
(And if you want more insight into your belief systems, give me a call. Or if you’re in Atlanta, come to my Intro to Shamanic Journeying and Healing workshop on June 4th and get in touch with your inner genie! This small workshop will sell out, so do sign up early.)
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